The Hot Mess Collective: for women who are tired of second-guessing themselves at work.
A 28 DAY GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE FOR THE SENSITIVE AND AMBITIOUS PROFESSIONAL WOMAN
LET'S TURN THAT F*CKING OVERWHELMEND, STRESSED OUT, SECOND GUESSING MIND OF YOURS ...Â
into one that spends less time replaying conversations, trusts its decisions faster, and feels steadier in the moments that usually send you spiralling.
HERES WHAT MOST CONFIDENCE ADVICE GETS WRONG!
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It treats doubt like something to get rid of. Fix the mindset, silence the inner critic, arrive at some finished, unbothered version of yourself where the doubt has finally gone quiet for good. You've probably tried that version. It doesn't hold because the doubt was never actually the problem.
ARE YOU ...?Â
THE ONE IN THE MIDDLE OF SOMETHING?
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Something happened at work… something bad enough that you've already had to step back once this year. The version of confidence you used to just have - walking into a room, trusting your own read on things - isn't available to you right now, and pretending it is takes more out of you than the actual work does. You don't need advice right now. You need somewhere to put the real version down, without having to explain or justify it first. Â
THE ONE GOING ALL IN BEFORE KIDS COME ALONG?
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You're either in the job that pays well but makes your miserable... wondering if you fix that now, before kids come along, or just stay because it's the smart, safe thing to do. Or you're in the new role, going hard, kids maybe a year out, quietly wondering if "having it all" is actually a plan or just something people say to you at the pub.Â
Different jobs. Same panic underneath: that whatever you decide right now, you won't find out it was the wrong call until it's too late to fix it.
Because the fear was never really career versus kids. It's ending up back in the job you already know doesn't fit because it felt safer to sit still than to move before everything got complicated. Or pushing so hard to prove you can have it all that you're not actually present for any of it.
THE ONE HOLDING BOTH JOBS AT ONCE?
You're the salary and the school run, the deadline and the packed lunch, sometimes in the same hour. Nobody's questioning whether you can do it - least of all you, you've been doing it for years. What's missing isn't capability. It's one hour that's actually yours, where neither job needs anything from youÂ
THE ONE WITH ROOM YOURSELF AGAIN?
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The house is quieter than it used to be. And there’s more room to think about what you want from work now, but every time an idea takes shape, you wonder whether it’s too late, too selfish, or too much to ask. You’re not starting from nothing: you want to trust yourself to choose what comes next.
THE ONEÂ WONDERING IFÂ THE JOB IS STILL FOR YOU?
You’ve worked hard at this job for years, and you’re still good at it. But the love’s gone quiet, and you feel faintly disloyal even admitting that. So you keep questioning yourself: is this a difficult season, or do you want something different? You don’t need someone to persuade you to stay or leave. You want to trust yourself to know what’s true for you.
I COULDN'T HELP BUT WONDER...
WHAT'S ACTUALLY GOING ON?
The truth is, you can be capable and unsure at the exact same time. The part of you that’s good at your job and the part of you that cross-examines it can both be in the room. Thats what it can feel like to be a sensitive, ambitious woman who cares about doing this well.
I built The Hot Mess Collective because I got tired of watching brilliant women wait to feel sure before they’d let themselves act like it.
You don’t need the doubt to disappear before you’re allowed to trust yourself. You need somewhere you can say the unsure bit out loud and recognise how good you are at your job.
That’s what can change in 28 days. Not the doubt disappearing. You, no longer waiting for it to.
WHAT IS THE HOT MESS COLLECTIVE?
The Hot Mess Collective is 28 days of live group coaching for sensitive and ambitious women who are tired of second-guessing themselves at work.
At the heart of The HMC is a weekly coaching space to bring real work moments you’re still turning over in your head... The meeting you keep replaying. The decision you’ve asked three people about, (even though you already have a view). The thing you wish you’d said.
You’ll be coached alongside women who know what it’s like to be bloody good at your job and still question yourself. There’s room to say the unpolished version out loud, have a laugh, and begin trusting your own judgement again.
HOW THE HMC WORKS
Every Tuesday from 7–8.30pm, we meet for Ninety Hot & Messy Minutes. I’ll coach you through what’s actually happening: where the second-guessing takes over, what it has you doing, and what you want to do next. You’ll learn from the other women’s experiences, too. Sometimes someone else says the thing you hadn’t quite found words for yet. The group sessions are recorded if you can’t make one live.
Then there's a bit of extra fun on the side, entirely optional, online events you can join:
Prosecco & Planning on Sundays gives you twenty minutes to get clear on the week ahead, pyjamas and beverage of choice welcome. Because most of us do our best thinking out loud, next to someone else doing the same thing, rather than alone with a to-do list at 11pm.
Bitch & Moan gives you a place to vent without having to tidy up what you feel.Â
And in between it all, I'm on Voxer with you. A private voice-and-text space running the whole 28 days, so you can bring something up when it happens rather than wait until our Tuesday session.
WHAT'S POSSIBLE AFTER 28 DAYS OF BEING YOUR HOT, MESSY, GLORIOUSLY CAPABLE SELF?Â
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 You might still question yourself sometimes. But you begin to catch the spiral while it’s happening instead of three hours later in the shower. You let good news land as good news, for once, instead of immediately checking it for the catch.
You also realise you’re not the only one. There’s a specific kind of relief in finding out that the thing you’ve been carrying is something other women have been carrying too. Nobody’s just been saying it out loud until now.
What does trusting yourself at work look like in YOUR life? Maybe you stop running your ambition past three people and just put yourself forward for the thing. You leave a meeting without needing to be rescued from it, or leave on time without the guilt tax attached.
Maybe you say you want the next thing out loud instead of wondering privately whether you’re still allowed to. Or you give yourself space to find out whether the love for your job has gone quiet for a season, or whether it’s telling you something real.
My mission is to help you back yourself, and enjoy being bloody good at what you do.
Catch the spiral sooner.
Hit send on draft one.
Let good news land.
Leave on time.
Say it out loud.
It's not just you.
HEY, I'MÂ SARAH
AND I AM PROBABLY THE MOST CONFIDENT AND INSECURE EXECUTIVE AND CONFIDENCE COACH THERE IS ...Â
I've spent close to 15 years coaching ambitious and sensitive professional women. I'm a TEDx Speaker, former Confidence Coach to the IMAGE Expert Coaching panel, award-winning, qualified Life, Executive and Career Coach (and I am pursuing my Senior Practitioner Accreditation with the EMCC).Â
I don't do corporate buzzwords. I don't do toxic positivity. I won't tell you to "just back yourself" and send you on your way.
What I will do is make you laugh when you want to cry, tell you the truth when everyone else is being diplomatic, and show you — practically, honestly — how to get out of your own way.
After a period of self-doubt and a lack of confidence, I now feel like a new person. So much so that one of my colleagues at work, after a meeting, said, 'Jesus Mary, you're on fire today. You're totally bossing it.' Sarah has been so supportive and is a fountain of information. She helped me to reframe my thinking and realise that some of the feedback that I had received at work was actually a diamond, and something to use to help me reflect and grow.
____ Mary — Product & Insights Manager, DAA
I was extremely pleased to be part of this course, in a short period of time, I have learned a lot about myself and my values. They will shape my future self in a much better and happier way. I have just started my exit plan and strategy. It will be a long journey; however, your advice and recommendations will support me all the way. Thank you so much!
ARE YOU READY FOR IT?
THE HOT MESS COLLECTIVE
IncludesÂ
- Four Group Coaching Sessions
-Â Access to me via Voxer between calls
- Four (optional Prosecco & Planning online sessions)
- Four (optional Bitch & Moan online sessions)
- HMC tools and resourcesÂ
GO ON, GO ON, GO ON
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SAY YES
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As soon as you pay, a confirmation email lands in your inbox with your login for [The Reset Room]. If it's not there within ten minutes, check your spam or promotions folder, because that's usually where it's hiding. Within [24 hours] I'll send your welcome email with every date, time and link you need, and add you to [the WhatsApp group]. Then on [date] we kick off properly x
If anything goes sideways (the email never shows up, you used the wrong address, your card has a wobble, or your employer is paying and needs an invoice), just email [address]. You'll get a reply from me, an actual human, within [one working day].Â